by Mish
Joanne’s three closest friends, Kathy, Marybeth, and Debbie all wanted me to move on, have fun, meet someone and enjoy life.
But where does one who is 59 years old find someone?
The bar scene may work for someone 21 to 35. For someone 59, the bar scene is a near-certain strikeout. There are numerous online services but most of the horror stories speak for themselves. I do have a close friend who was “successful” on the exact 100th match.
No thanks.
I decided to try a place called Selective Search. I found them doing a search for executive matching. There are other high-end matching services, but I liked the Selective Search model.
One key difference between Selective Search and other executive matching services is only the men pay. The advantages and disadvantages of such an approach should be obvious. The advantage to men is there are far more women in the system. The advantage to women is they do not pay and thus have nothing to lose.
Selective Search interviews every candidate and they weed out men who are not seriously looking for a relationship; they weed out women who appear to be gold-diggers, and they weed out people with unrealistic goals (for example a 60 year-old overweight man who wants to find a 23-year-old beauty-queen match).
My Criteria
Preferably, I wanted someone with a nice smile and slender build, who likes to travel, likes golf, likes to kayak, and likes to play cards. My “dealbreakers” were smoking, someone with young kids, and someone who wanted more kids.
Liz was my second date, matched personally by “Molly”, my Selective Searchmatchmaker. Liz, 52, had a cutoff age of 55, but Molly convinced Liz to take a chance.
We went out for dinner on Saturday, November 3, then again on November 6, Election Day.
Very quickly we started seeing a lot of each other. Since then we bought and decorated a Christmas tree together, have been to Mexico, Mackinaw Island, gone hiking in state parks, and went kayaking twice. We golf regularly, and we even won two regional duplicate bridge tournaments together.
The odds of quickly finding someone with those interests except via a high-end matching service is about zero percent, no matter how long one looks.
Old Friends, New Friends
Liz and Joanne’s closest friends have met, and we have even traveled together, to Mexico. Kathy, Marybeth, and Debbie have embraced Liz and vice versa. Kathy, was my “best man” at the wedding.
Meet Liz
Here are some pictures from our two most recent trips.
Click on any image for sharper view.
Mackinac Island Michigan Carriage Ride
Mackinac Island – Fun in Phone Booth
Glen Arbor Michigan – Rhododendrons
Sunset, Sipping Wine at Sleeping Bear Dunes National Lakeshore, Michigan
Sleeping Bear Dunes National Lakeshore Sunset
Sleeping Bear Dunes National Lakeshore – Wild Lilacs
Sleeping Bear Dunes National Lakeshore – Wild Lilacs
Starved Rock State Park, Utica IL, Waterfall After Spring Rain
Yes, we got wet taking that picture (Liz got soaked while I was fooling around trying to find the best angle), but it was fun. And, life’s too short to not have fun with a compatible soulmate.
I am extremely fortunate to have found Liz. And I could not possibly be happier.
We are going on a delayed honeymoon at the end of July and early August in Prague (the capital and largest city of the Czech Republic), Munich Germany, and Rothenburg ob der Tauber (a lovely fairy-tale city on the Romantic Road in Germany). I will post some pictures while there.
Mike “Mish” Shedlock
Congratulations rather late Mish just saw this. But it made me wonder, if only the men pay does that mean they make double on gay men and nothing on lesbians? Or do they just flat out discriminate based on sexual orientation?
Congratulations, Mish !
Best wishes to you both
Congratulations on your wedding! You both looked great, and I love how well thought out everything was!
Congratulations to you both and may you have many years together to enjoy with one another.
Congratulations! I lost my wife to ALS at 56 and was fortunate enough to find someone.
we travel a lot, Prague and rothenberg are beautiful towns. Let me know if you get down to a Regional in southern
i met my first and second wives at Bridge tournaments, first passed from cancer. I am very lucky to find a second perfect person.
You are lucky to have found your soulmate a second time.
Congratulations Mish and Liz. May your time together enjoy good health, longlasting with many adventures and sweet memories for the both of you.
Congratulations both of you. I am also 59, married for 26 years, teaching economics in Geneva, Switzerland but life has been kinder to us. I wish you the best.
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Great story!
Some things in life are more priceless than others! Great story Mish!